polyamorous pansexual
by umtableforoneplease
Alrighty then!
Being pansexual is quite an experience for me. I feel good that there’s finally a word for my sexual orientation and that it’s gaining acceptance within the LGBT community. Being pansexual let’s me feel limitless in my attraction to others and, overall, it’s a fitting label. There are some cons that come with being pansexual. I’m faced with about as much queer-phobia as expected, especially since I live in the south. Not to mention that I’ve experienced monosexism from not only straight people, but from the LGBT community as well. Since the term is relatively new to the public (despite its first appearance around the 1970s), I’m ridiculed and invalidated quite often. People have said that I’m a special snowflake, or that the right word that I’m looking for is “bisexual”. Some Pansexuals have been called “fast” and “slutty” and that we love orgies. It was for these reasons why I was so scared to admit to being polyamorous, because being poly has its own set of stigmas as well.
As a polyamorous pansexual, I kinda fit into the slut stereotype despite being a virgin and only having monogamous relationships. Being poly, to some people, means that I’m selfish and greedy and sex-driven when that’s not the case at all. What’s worse is that if you’re a Woman Of Color as well, then the stigmas become even more misogynistic. As we know, the media doesn’t represent many groups of people well, so whenever I saw love triangles, I often wondered “what’s so bad about liking more than one person at a time?”, since the main romantic interest ALWAYS had to choose one. Despite those things, it’s liberating identifying myself as poly. I feel like I’m not subjected to choose one person to be with. I’m glad that I don’t need to feel shameful about who I am, and that I am normal in a different way, if that makes any sense.
Being polyamorous and pansexual has also taught me not to be judgmental and to mind my own business when it comes to sexual/romantic affairs. I’ve learned to appreciate all types of beauty. I’m glad to be who I am, and thankful that there are words to help me describe myself on my road to self discovery.
Being pansexual is quite an experience for me. I feel good that there’s finally a word for my sexual orientation and that it’s gaining acceptance within the LGBT community. Being pansexual let’s me feel limitless in my attraction to others and, overall, it’s a fitting label. There are some cons that come with being pansexual. I’m faced with about as much queer-phobia as expected, especially since I live in the south. Not to mention that I’ve experienced monosexism from not only straight people, but from the LGBT community as well. Since the term is relatively new to the public (despite its first appearance around the 1970s), I’m ridiculed and invalidated quite often. People have said that I’m a special snowflake, or that the right word that I’m looking for is “bisexual”. Some Pansexuals have been called “fast” and “slutty” and that we love orgies. It was for these reasons why I was so scared to admit to being polyamorous, because being poly has its own set of stigmas as well.
As a polyamorous pansexual, I kinda fit into the slut stereotype despite being a virgin and only having monogamous relationships. Being poly, to some people, means that I’m selfish and greedy and sex-driven when that’s not the case at all. What’s worse is that if you’re a Woman Of Color as well, then the stigmas become even more misogynistic. As we know, the media doesn’t represent many groups of people well, so whenever I saw love triangles, I often wondered “what’s so bad about liking more than one person at a time?”, since the main romantic interest ALWAYS had to choose one. Despite those things, it’s liberating identifying myself as poly. I feel like I’m not subjected to choose one person to be with. I’m glad that I don’t need to feel shameful about who I am, and that I am normal in a different way, if that makes any sense.
Being polyamorous and pansexual has also taught me not to be judgmental and to mind my own business when it comes to sexual/romantic affairs. I’ve learned to appreciate all types of beauty. I’m glad to be who I am, and thankful that there are words to help me describe myself on my road to self discovery.